Marsh
Marsh

What is it that drives us toward the pursuit of perfection? We know we can't attain it. And what's worse, on some level we know we don't even want to. But it doesn't stop us from putting our time and energy and stress into trying to make things perfect.

I have heard that for some people, there is no drive towards perfection, and I know that I would be described as a perfectionist. But I'm also a romantic and a writer, and I know that the story is best when things go wrong.

I have lost sleep trying to think of all the things that could go wrong for my sister's upcoming wedding. I've actually been trying to ensure that an event involving 180 people — many of them small children — in a variable-weather climate, at a venue with not enough seats and with no formal rehearsal will go off seamlessly.

It's a laughable endeavor.

And when it comes down to it, I know that "imperfect" is my family's jam. We are really good at rolling with imperfect and then retelling the story of just how imperfect it was for years and years. There was the trip to Salt Lake City to see the Olympics when two of the three vehicles in the caravan broke down, and we ended up barreling down the highway on a 30 degree night with three people in the bed of a pickup truck. Or our visit to Berlin, where our hotel ran out of roll-away beds so they put a sheet over some lawn furniture for us to sleep on.


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When it comes to weddings, the most memorable ones — and the ones that stick out to me as being the most fun — are the ones where the majority of things went wrong. The best wedding I ever attended involved the bride firing her incompetent wedding coordinator and decorating the venue herself. She ran out of time to get ready, so she simply threw on her dress at the last minute and got married. She also tore her dress later that night dancing hard with her family and friends and having the time of her life.

It was fabulous.

So here and now, I pledge to stop freaking out over the imperfections. I promise to embrace them and weave them into the fabric of the story of what, hopefully, will be a memorable celebration. As long as we have our family and friends and a couple bottles of wine, we'll be all set!

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