Jessica L. Ryan
Jessica L. Ryan

This past week, I've been asking you lovely readers to submit any nerdy advice you may need for a Dear Abby gabfest. Thanks to all who submitted! Here are some of the best questions I got, and the best answers I have:

I really like the Sherlock Holmes series, so I've been wanting to get into the BBC show. But whenever I tell my friends I've been thinking about starting it, they tell me not to because it will "ruin my life." Will Sherlock really ruin my life, or are they just being dramatic?

-- Sherlocked Up in Fear

The short answer is yes.

It's nearly impossible to watch Sherlock without getting sucked in to its fandom underbelly. I blame Benedict Cumberbatch's cheekbones (swoon). But what makes Sherlock the biggest life-ruiner of all is that each series only has three episodes, there are only two series, and the next one won't be out for another year. This will leave you watching the same six episodes over and over, trying to find a new way to analyze the endings ... or worse, shipping Sherlock and John and going crazy over your OTP on Tumblr.

Sherlock will totally ruin your life. But it's worth it.


Oftentimes, nerds come across as pretentious or even downright rude to people outside their inner circle. I would love to have more nerdy friends, but I find it difficult to overcome this barrier and feel accepted. Is this just all in my head or is the nerd community just made up of assholes? How can I find nice people who share in my same nerdy passions? -- NerdShy

Turns out, you're not the only shy one.

Most of us nerds have spent our lives being picked on for the things we like, from Pokemon to Harry Potter. As a defense, a lot of nerds hide behind their confidence in their passions, which comes off as arrogance. However I don't know what nerd communities you've been hanging out with, because there are plenty of nerds who are far from assholes.

Look into becoming a part of the Nerdfighters -- they're how I got into the nerd world as I know it. (Check out


So I like this guy. We text constantly and we've been on a couple "dates." We're Facebook friends and Twitter followers. I see him in person about once a week and it's always pretty casual, maybe a little flirty. No kissing though! I read some article about how to tell if guys like you, but I still couldn't tell, so I decided to just tell him and see what happened. He thanked me for telling him and said he would "sit on it for a while." It's been over a month and nothing's changed. Time to give up? Point me to some online single girl problems forums or something! -- Kissless & Confused

In any relationship, I always say communication is key.

We're not in middle school anymore, and playing "does he like me" games is far from cute. You've already told him how you feel and he gave you a fair response; no online article or forum is going to help you discern his feelings. You've given him ample time to "sit on it." If you really think he's worth keeping around, ask him for a follow up. If he's not ready, don't waste your time waiting around for him to make a decision.

Jessica Ryan is a senior media studies major at CU. She writes about nerdy things once a week for the Colorado Daily. On Twitter: @JessicaLRyan