I've been thinking a lot lately about the glorification of busy, and how focusing on how busy you are actually makes you less productive. How we all use "busy" as a way to gauge our worth. How we need to make sure we're busier than everyone else, because that's the only way we can win.
Because, yeah — everyone else is busy, too. Sure, you have midterms and you have to pack for spring break and oh god St. Paddy's is next week and you haven't even looked up how to make green beer oh god oh no.
But literally everyone has their own list of "oh god oh no" they are trying to get through. You're not a special snowflake for having responsibilities; you don't win by being busy.
And, let's be honest: you're probably not as busy as you think. I'm totally guilty of this, and it sucks. Yeah, I truly have a lot to do, between work and event planning and seeing friends and trying to finish the 200-page book I've been reading for more than a month.
But I also spend a remarkable amount of time on Tumblr or Reddit or being painfully inflexible about what time I go to the gym. And you probably do, too: whether you're playing an extra round or five of a video game, or running a few more miles than you'd decided you were going to do today.
A lot has been said about "busy." The best advice I've seen says: Instead of thinking "I'm too busy for that," you reframe it as "that's not a priority to me" and see how you feel about it. It's important to think hard about why things are priorities and look at the impact they have on other aspects of your life.
Instead of making excuses, try being honest — with yourself and with others. If you'd rather backread six hours of Tweets than go to a movie, tell your friend you don't want to go. If you need to spend an hour in the bath instead of on a date, say you need some time alone.
It's time to stop using "busy" as a way to get out of things. Because let's be real: You have the same amount of hours in a day as everyone else (yes, even Beyoncé), and we all have a lot on our plates. When you're honest about your priorities and about how you manage your time, you'll know more about yourself, treat people better, and you'll spend less time thinking about "busy" and more time getting shit done.
Jess Ryan is a community manager and CU grad. She writes about nerdy things once a week for the Colorado Daily. On Twitter @JessicaLRyan.