Jessica Ryan
Jessica Ryan

One of the hardest parts of being a fandom-centric nerd is falling into the trap of romanticizing small parts of the things we love, in spite of their realities or lessons.

You know the drill:

Girls adorning themselves with arrows and mockingjay pins and talking about how they want to be “just like Katniss” someday. I’m pretty sure running around a horrifying arena and being forced to kill your peers is a little less of a fun adventure as you’d like to think.

Or guys obsessed with F. Scott Fitzgerald, thinking all they need to get the girl they love is to be crazy rich with a monogrammed swimming pool and throw huge parties every night. You know that wasn’t a love story, right?

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m totally guilty of this too.

I’ll only watch the first half of “An Education,” because I don’t want to believe there could possibly be anything strange at all about an older man whisking me off to Paris and making me cultured and refined.

I see this all the time, even outside of fandoms.

You get so passionate about charitable organizations that you aren’t even willing to acknowledge the company gives 80 percent of its profits to the CEO.

You love the idea of living in that sweet apartment so much you completely ignore the fact that the rent is about $100 more than what you make every month. It’s fine, you think, I’ll just eat Ramen and beans.

And sometimes we romanticize things so much we don’t even try to bring them to fruition.

You have a huge crush on that bartender — but instead of talking to him, you build him up to be the most perfect man ever… and then you never talk to him, because you don’t want to spoil the fantasy.

You plan a kickass road trip to Santa Fe over fall break, complete with Frito Pie from the Five and Dime. But then in comes the Wednesday before break, and what do you have planned for this weekend? You’re staring at that bartender and giggling, looking away with a giggle the moment he catches your eye, aren’t you?

Don’t get caught in a nerdy bad romance.

Critical thinking is a good practice to have. If you catch yourself daydreaming, entertain it a lil’ bit. But then remind yourself of the truth of a situation — if it seems like that older man might be a con artist, you might wanna stay away. But if there’s a potentially good outcome with that bartender? Get it girl.

Jessica Ryan is a community manager and CU grad. She writes about nerdy things once a week for the Colorado Daily.