Growing up, I often heard the phrase “If you want something done right, do it yourself.”
It’s no secret nerds can sometimes be a little intense — think about any frustrating group project you’ve ever worked on and how many times you just wanted to tell everyone it’s fine, you’ll just take care of everything. And whenever you go to a French restaurant and they call them “macaroons” instead of “macarons,” our brain gets close to exploding…
I feel you, fellow nerds. I’m the girl who has a place for everything, and everything in its place. I live and die by my Google calendar. I sort my closet not only by color, but also by season, formality and comfiness. Call me controlling, a perfectionist or anal-retentive, if you want; I find comfort in routine and consistency. And I like when things are right.
But I’m in a state of transition right now. Nearly every single change in my life (and whoo boy, are there a lot) is for the better — I’m honestly stoked on life for the first time in a while. But even though everything is awesome, losing the control I had when everything was boring means everything is also intense, crazy and totally weird.
Major changes like this seem to happen more quickly in summer than in the winter — we’re less routine-bound when we’re able to leave the house in fewer than 10 layers — so I suspect many of you are going through something like this as well. So, how do we deal with it?
My go-to tactic for when things get crazy is to purge all the bad shit from my life: Facebook friends, clothes I don’t wear anymore, Christmas candy I haven’t even touched, even the 500 screenshots saved to my computer’s desktop. Getting rid of all that weight will make you feel free — even if it’s just for a little while.
When everything is out of control, look for little things you can control. Pick an intricate hairstyle or crochet a simple scarf. Alphabetize your board game collection. Take 15-30 minutes and allow yourself to be in control.
And then, intentionally lose it. Go to a restaurant and tell them to surprise you. Skip that class at the gym and go for a bike ride instead. See what it feels like to willingly lose control, and let that become a good feeling.
If you want something done right, sometimes you can’t do it by yourself. A support system is essential when you’re going through big changes. Many times, “controlling” people have other stuff going on, like anxiety or OCD, and could benefit from therapy. Asking for help from friends and family means you won’t be going through these changes alone. Soon, winter will return — and so will our routines, a sense of control, and even group projects.
Jess Ryan is a social media strategist and CU grad. She writes about nerdy things once a week for the Colorado Daily. On Twitter: @jessryanco.